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这一发现并不出自偶然，也不是个人的胡思乱想，而是从近代社会学心理学政治学的一系列研究里归纳出来的结论。如不信，请读完全文。
从小到大，总有人告诉你，要做一个温暖善良的人；要懂得体谅别人的苦衷；要合群，把别人的感受放在心里。但不知有没有想过，正是这些被反复歌颂的好品质，让你活得越来越累，离你真正想要的人生越来越远？著名心理学家卡尔.
荣格，早就看透了这个让人不舒服的事实：假如一个人总把自己放在别人的天平上衡量，相信他人的评价超越自我的估值，就永远不可能赢。不赢当然就是输，输给那些总想压在你头上，控制霸凌你，抽干你的血，把你当奴隶的人。比如独裁者。
几乎所有人，一生中都浸透着如雷贯耳的教诲，要热情，要主动，要让别人舒服，要做一个好人，谦卑是美德。但为什么不停下来静心想想，这个好人的标准是谁定的，它真能带给你想要的人生吗？还只是别人用来控制、消耗，让你留在原地的一套隐形枷锁？
荣格在分析人格面具的时候说过，人格面具是个体与社会之间的一种妥协，它不是真正的自我，而是你为了被接纳而表演出来的样子。问题在于，当大多数人把表演当成了真实，把面具当成了自己的脸，他们一辈子都在努力争做一个好人，却从来没有活出自己。这种好人的代价是什么，是你把所有的能量都用来维护别人，也许是最不该维护的那个。2年前曾写过一篇《读独裁者手册》，在里面我列举了所有独裁者成功的秘诀。不过主要笔墨都侧重于独裁者一面，对为什么独裁者总是成功的外部因素，却没有提及。今天想换一个角度，试图把养肥独裁者的土壤找出来，发现出一种不同于传统的遏制极权的办法来。也许，前人缺乏的正是从这个角度的思考，因此在灭掉一个暴君之后，仍有下一个冒出来，以至于循环往复，噩梦难醒。
先介绍一个狠人，美国神经内分泌学家、灵长类动物学家、科普作家、麦克阿瑟天才奖得主，罗伯特.萨博斯基。他在2017年出了一本书叫《Behave: The Biology of Humans at Our Best and Worst》，主要介绍怎么精准预测一个人的行为，并且不光预测，还把这个人为什么会作出这种行为，拆成了从毫秒级到几十年的完整时间轴。行为经济学家丹尼尔.
卡尼曼，就是借他的发现，分析人的各种不可预测的行为，结果得了诺奖。
萨博斯基曾经带领过一个团队，来到东非的肯尼亚，住帐篷，吃罐头，挨蚊子咬，研究一种和人类极其相似的动物狒狒。因为肯尼亚的狒狒和其他的灵长类动物不一样，它们不缺食物，每天只需花3个小时觅食，剩下的9个小时全部用来社交，包括结盟、打架，争夺权力，几乎就是一个被缩小的人类社会。
萨博斯基发现，一些温和的雄性狒狒，在地位低的时候非常安静友好，但一旦社会地位上升之后，行为会在几天之内迅速颠覆，开始主动地挑衅、恐吓、打压、羞辱周围群体，速度快到根本来不及用性格变化去解释。为什么会这样呢？原来，这些狒狒在打架打赢的瞬间，体内睾酮水平迅速升高，多巴胺系统被强烈激活，身体开始不断向大脑发出一个信号，你现在拥有资源了，必须要守住。也就是说，他们的身体变化快过心理变化。还有啊，萨博斯基发现变化最极端的那一批狒狒，恰恰是曾经在低位的时候受欺凌最严重的，它们牢牢记忆自己是怎么被驱赶、被剥夺食物、被无视的，所以当权力到来的那一刻，大脑就会立刻启动防御机制，开始提前攻击、羞辱、过度控制。
对应到人类社会，当一个人在刚刚获得一点权力的时候，行为如发生剧变，变得主观，霸道，自我膨胀，大概率可以判断这个人本来就缺乏稳定型的人格，只是之前没有机会表现而已。其实这里说的权力，不光是地位提高，突然成了领导或老板高管，也指信息优势、关系优势、认知和资源领先的任何一个位置差。
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